Sex Alone Won't Give You an Orgasm - Here's What Will

Let's face it, sex is great! But, unfortunately, it's not always what the movies make it out to be. Like many things in life, those silver-screen sex scenes don't always reflect reality. And the biggest misconception about sex is that it's supposed to be like it is in the movies - meaning, a woman goes wild with pleasure and climaxes with vaginal penetration alone.

In this blog post, we'll look closely at why that's not the case and what women can do to experience more pleasure during sex.

Definition of Sexual Pleasure

First things first, let's define sexual pleasure. Sexual pleasure is the experience of intense physical and mental satisfaction from engaging in consensual sexual activity with another person. The physical sensations of pleasure come from nerve endings located in the genitals, as well as erogenous zones throughout the body.

This is not a one-size-fits-all experience because everyone experiences pleasure differently. For some, it may come from clitoral stimulation, while for others, it could be G-spot stimulation or even nipple play. The key is to explore and determine what brings you the most pleasure.

Anatomy of Pleasure 

Now that we've established what pleasure is let's turn to the anatomy behind it. Women have different anatomical structures than men, so it's important to understand how a female body experiences pleasure during sex.

Nerve Endings - Majority in Top/External Portion 

When it comes to genital pleasure, female nerve endings are primarily located in the top and external portion of the vagina. This area is filled with nerve endings sensitive to tactile and pressure stimulation. These nerve endings are responsible for providing pleasure when a partner is engaging in oral, manual, or penetrative stimulation.

Clitoris - 8,000 Nerve End

The clitoris is one of the most important components of female pleasure. It is a small bulb-shaped organ located at the front of the vagina and is composed of more than 8,000 nerve endings — more than anywhere else on the female body.

When stimulated, these nerve endings can cause intense pleasure and even orgasm. The clitoris can be stimulated through direct or indirect contact, orally, manually, or penetration. It is important to note that the clitoris is extremely sensitive, so it is important to be gentle and start with a light touch.

G-Spot - Location and Function 

Another key component of female pleasure is the G-spot. It is located in the anterior wall of the vagina, near the urethra, and is an area of heightened sensitivity that can be stimulated manually or through penetration. Many women report intense sensations when the G-spot is stimulated, which can even lead to orgasm.

The G-spot can be located by inserting a finger into the vagina and making a “come here” motion with the finger. It is important to note that everyone’s G-spot is located in a slightly different place and will respond differently to stimulation. Some people need more pressure and faster movements, while others prefer a lighter touch and gentle, slow strokes.

Experimenting with different kinds of touch and pressure can be important in finding what works best for you. It is important to keep in mind that G-spot stimulation may not bring everyone to orgasm, but it can still be a

Sub-Optimal Vulva-Vagina Function During Intercourse 

Sub-optimal vulva-vagina function during intercourse can lead to decreased pleasure. To avoid this, partner-specific movements and positions may help ensure optimal contact. Additionally, lubrication can help reduce friction and increase pleasure for both the giver and receiver.

Other techniques that can be used include clitoral stimulation, ensuring adequate foreplay beforehand, and experimenting with different speeds, pressure, and thrusting angles. Additionally, breathing deeply during intercourse can help keep emotions and sensations in check. Communication is also important in understanding a partner’s needs, likes and dislikes.

Having a willing partner to listen to your needs, likes and dislikes are important in creating intimacy and a safe space to explore your sexuality and preferences. Discussing ideas with each other can help keep communication and expectations open.

Finding out more about each other's erogenous zones, such as the wrists, neck, back, and inner thighs, can help increase pleasure and intimacy as you explore and discover ways to increase pleasure for both partners.

Ultimately, finding ways to communicate and creating a space to explore and discover mutual pleasure is how optimal vulva-vagina function during intercourse can be achieved.

Conclusion

Regarding sexual pleasure, what’s inside matters just as much as what’s outside. Knowing the anatomy of your body and how to make the most out of your vaginal area is key to unlocking ultimate satisfaction. 

Understanding where nerve endings are located and why they may be hard to reach during traditional intercourse is an invaluable asset in learning to ensure you get the full pleasure available to you. 

With some knowledge and practice, you can ensure that every time with your partner is as pleasurable for you as possible!

Dr. Nikki Cohen
Pelvic Floor Therapist in San Diego,
Services in English
Address: San Diego, California
92115 United States
Phone: +1 (818) 606-6717
Email: [email protected]