Self-Love: The Key to Showing Others Love and Happiness

Self-Love: The Key to Showing Others Love and Happiness


The concept of self-love may sound a bit cliché, but it’s the key to showing others love and happiness. When you learn to love yourself, you become more open and accepting of others. You also start building better relationships with those around you. But what does self-love truly mean?


In this article, we’ll explore what self-love is and how you can start showing yourself love and kindness. The best part - it’s something you can start doing this Valentine's Day!


Happy Valentines Day


We all know Valentine’s Day is about celebrating love, but it can also be used to celebrate self-love.


Valentine’s Day has always been a day of love and appreciation. Red roses, chocolates, and cards symbolize our special bond with loved ones. But this year, it’s time also to celebrate yourself! This Valentine’s Day, think about making yourself feel special and appreciated.


Self-love isn’t just about reminding ourselves to be kind; it’s also a way of accepting and celebrating the person we are today. It means setting healthy boundaries, learning when to say ‘no’, and taking a break when necessary. When we learn to love ourselves, showing others kindness and compassion becomes easier.


It can be difficult at first, but self-love should be practiced every day of the year - not just on Valentine’s Day. As you start recognizing and accepting your unique qualities, you’ll find it easier to open up and connect with others. You’ll also be able to show love deeper and more meaningfully.


What is Self-Love?


In simple terms, self-love is taking care of yourself and prioritizing your physical and mental health.


Not Being Selfish


Some people often mistake self-love with being selfish. That’s not the case at all! Selfishness is only concerned with taking care of yourself and disregarding others, while self-love is about nurturing your own needs to better take care of those around you. This involves investing in positive habits and activities to help you stay healthy and happy.


Taking Care of Oneself


Self-love is about taking care of yourself and investing in your wellness. This means prioritizing self-care, engaging in activities that make you feel good, and actively practicing gratitude. Learning to process and accept your emotions, flaws, and shortcomings is also important without judgment or guilt.


Learning to love yourself makes it easier to appreciate and celebrate with others. You become more compassionate, understanding, and tolerant of different perspectives. This helps create meaningful relationships with those around you.


Ways to Show Self-Love


Now that we understand what self-love is all about let’s look at some ways to start showing yourself love and kindness.


Bubble Bath with Candlelight


Take the time to relax in a warm bubble bath lit by candles. Draw yourself a nice hot bath and add some soothing essential oils for an extra treat. Not only will this help you relax, but it will also boost your mood.




Meditating can help you clear your mind and recenter yourself. You don’t have to sit in the lotus position, just find a quiet place and focus on your breath. A few minutes of meditation each day can go a long way toward creating a sense of inner peace and harmony.


Chair Massage


Treat yourself to a chair massage! You can find one at many spas or even order it from the comfort of your own home. This will help reduce stress and tension, leaving you feeling refreshed and energized.


Go To Bed When Tired


Make sure to get plenty of rest. Going to bed when you feel tired is one of the best ways to show self-love. Your body needs time to recharge for it to function optimally. This means turning off screens, avoiding caffeine after a certain time, and getting 8 hours of sleep each night.


There are, of course, many more ways to show yourself some love! Try something that speaks to you or makes you feel good. Maybe it’s taking a yoga class or going for a walk in nature. Whatever it may be, make sure to take some time for yourself each day.


Dr. Nikki's Self-Love Practice


Self-love is not just about taking time out for yourself; it’s also about showing up as your best self. Here are some of my favorite ways to practice self-love:

  • Going to bed when my body feels tired, no matter what time the clock shows. This is my personal favorite! Not only does it help ensure I’m getting enough rest, but it also helps me stay in tune with my body and its natural rhythms.


  • Eating quietly without distractions and truly enjoy my food. Doing this helps me slow down, savor each bite, and appreciate the flavors in front of me.


  • Booking a bi-monthly massage with energy work. This helps me relax, unwind, and reduce stress levels.


  • Lovingly massaging body oil all over after a hot, steamy shower. I am currently obsessed with an organic, cold-pressed body and face oil. Not only does it smell amazing, but the oil helps nourish my skin, leaving me feeling refreshed and revitalized.


  • Participating in weekly personal development tasks that allow me to show up as authentically as I can each day. This could include journaling, reading a book, or setting aside time for self-reflection.


No matter which activities you choose to practice self-love, make sure it resonates with you and helps you feel your best. Start small and build from there! You deserve it.



Self-love is a powerful tool that helps us connect with our true selves, appreciate and celebrate others, and create meaningful relationships. Showing yourself love does not have to be complicated or time-consuming – just take small steps each day, and you will soon start to notice the positive changes in your life. So don’t forget to take time and show yourself some love!


By taking the time to invest in self-love, we will create strong emotional foundations that help us build healthier relationships with ourselves and others, as well as lasting happiness. So don’t forget, it all starts with self-love!






Dr. Nikki Cohen
Pelvic Floor Therapist in San Diego,
Services in English
Address: San Diego, California
92115 United States
Phone: +1 (818) 606-6717
Email: [email protected]